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First Heartbreak: Mental Techniques To Help Teens Move On From a Breakup

Most first love experiences happen during adolescence. The experience is truly life-changing; coupled with one’s own quest for individuality and identity, first loves often leave a remarkable impression on a teenager. Unfortunately, many first love experiences do not last long. Couples separate and the teenager is left feeling vulnerable. Several psychological techniques can be followed.

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Expression: Strong emotions need to be expressed in a healthy manner. Love is a powerful emotion. Medical studies have proven that there are physiological effects of love. This means, loving someone causes significant changes to one’s brain. For those experiencing love for the first time, “letting go” is difficult because physically speaking, one is changed. Many child and adolescent psychiatrists recommend reprogramming one’s brain and body by finding means of expression. This can be in the form of writing, speaking, painting, or any form of manner in which to express all the emotions being felt.

Practice gratitude: This is challenging at the beginning. Recent psychological studies suggest the use of positive affirmations as an effective means of moving on from a breakup. This includes continuously practicing gratitude and self-affirmations. It is easy for teenagers to feel a lack of self-worth after an intense love affair, so it is necessary for them to remind themselves of their good qualities. Doing so not only helps in changing one’s perception of the relationship but one’s self-image.

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Extreme cases of breakups can cause an adolescent to engage in risky behaviors or feel intense emotions. Parents who fear their child is not coping properly should immediately consult with their trusted child and adolescent psychiatrist.

Dr. Jonathan Lauter specializes in child and adolescent psychiatry. Subscribe to this blog for more articles on mental health.

Puppy Love: A Psychological Perspective On First Love

Adolescence brings about many changes. One of the most important growth milestones is the occurrence of new feelings such as first love. Mental health practitioners have tried to study the many effects of love and have still not yet fully understood both the lasting physiological and emotional effects of the feeling. However, these experts all agree that the purest – and perhaps the rawest – manifestation of first love is the one exhibited by teenagers. This is because this form of love is deemed to be the first in terms of discovering romantic love mixed with a healthy dose of physical desire.

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“Puppy love” as the phase is called is a fascinating stage, and thus, has become a popular subject in studies in various fields. From a psychological perspective, though, this form of love has many intriguing concepts. It is not random that Romeo and Juliet were teenagers. Even without the death and gore, teenagers often report feeling a sense of overwhelming desire toward their partner. The feeling of love is intensified by the inevitable personal growth one experiences in adolescence. This is, perhaps, one of the main reasons first love seems so powerful. The significant other suddenly becomes integral to the personal development of an individual. Adolescents cannot distinguish the happiness and self-fulfillment they with the other person. From a survivalist point of view, the love becomes necessary instead of wanted. This may be why other emotions, such jealousy and insecurity, also manifest in first love.

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Psychologists understand that as children age, their maturity does as well. This helps teach individuals the difference in infatuation from actual mature love; the latter being essential in any successful adult relationship.

Dr. Jonathan Lauter is a certified child and adolescent psychiatrist. His practice deals with the myriad of experiences children and teenagers experience. Through his work, children can deal with the many challenges in life with confidence and strength. Learn more by liking this Facebook page.